Small charcoal grill – raise fire grill

Piling the charcoal on one side gives you more control over your cooking -- because the grill isn't evenly hot, you can move the food around if its cooking too fast. In some cases, you specifically want the lower heat of indirect cooking, such as when dealing with roasts and other large cuts of meat.

The pan of water is often used when dealing with indirect cooking to reduce flare ups -- as the fat renders off, it lands in the water rather than the hot coals starting a grease fire and suddenly heating the item being grilled. As @deroberts points out, it also keeps the air moist, preventing the meat from drying out during the longer cooking period.

You always cover the grill to retain heat for indirect cooking; you're effectively creating an oven, so the item cooks evenly. Not covering the grill will mean your food won't cook evenly, if at al.

For thicker items (more than 2 inch / 5 cm thick), even if using direct cooking, you may wish to close the lid, rather than just cooking from the radiant heat of the coals. You will need to be careful, however, as it means you'll have to watch for smoke, as the fat renders off and falls into the coals. You should be prepared to open the lid to move the food should this happen, or keep a spray bottle of water to take down the flames.

Distance from charcoal isn't really the issue (some steak recipes, in fact, call for the meat to be cooked directly on the coals). It's the temperature at the grate you ought to consider. Granted, distance is one factor in grate temperature. The amount of lit coals you have is another.

As for proper temperature, it all depends on what you are cooking. I like cooking my steaks on high heat, about 500-600F. Burgers at around the 450 range. Poultry closer to 400. Look up the "Mississippi Test," often referenced by Steven Raichlen, as a good way to measure your fire temperature.