I'm looking for two words:
1) when in my mother language we call someone (especially a man), "possessive" or "jealous" (towards his / her spouse), it has a positive connotation and it is a sign of being a real and reliable lover (man or woman). If e.g. a man gets angry when his wife wants to kiss or shake another man's hand warmly (with sexual approach), a real man should be angry because of their possessiveness / jealousy. Actually, these two above-mentioned words (which both have negative connotations) are the only words I found to explain such a sense. I would be really thankful if you let me know whether there is another word to convey a more positive sense.
2) What do the natives call someone who lacks these feelings and it doesn't make any difference for him / her that if their spouse has any type of out of convention / sexual relationship with another opposite sex?
Best Answer
I think you are right that jealous and possessive are the two most appropriate words. Yes, they do both have negative connotations, but a complete absence of jealousy can be regarded by a person with a negative outlook as uncaring or unemotional, and by a person with a positive outlook as trustful or trusting.
In western society, it seems that both men and women are expected to show occasional signs of jealousy, but they are expected to keep their anger in check.
If a person knows that their partner is having sex with other people, they might be called broad-minded. This term has both a specific meaning relating to sex and a more general meaning: the context would indicate which meaning is intended.