Word Usage – Is ‘Because I Feel Lonely’ a Proper Response?

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According to Oxford Dictionary

feel (linking verb): to experience a particular feeling or emotion

feel + adj: feel well/sick/happy/sad, etc.

I am feeling lonely today. (so, we can use continuous tense with feel with this meaning)

But if we say "I feel lonely.", we say that happens regularly.

See this conversation

A: You are always happy but why are you sad today?

B: Because I feel lonely.

Does B response properly?

I would say B is using tenses incorrectly.

I would say the best response should be "Because I'm feeling lonely" because I don't feel lonely other days except today.

Am I right?

Best Answer

We can use present simple to talk about

  • something that is true right now
  • something that happens regularly
  • something that is always true (a permanent state)
  • something that will happen in the future.

We use present continuous to talk about a situation that occurs continuously for some time before and after now.

The first meaning of present simple is usually only used with non-continuous verbs: ones where you don't use present continuous to describe the current situation. These tend to be verbs where can't see the person doing anything, for example want, like and fear. A small number of verbs are mixed: one meaning may be normal and the other non-continuous. An example is think, which is used in present continuous to describe the process or thinking and in present simple to express an opinion.

I am thinking about quitting my job - process: present continuous
I think that we are nearly finished - opinion: simple present

Feel is very unusual in that

...there is no real difference in meaning between "I don't feel well today" and "I am not feeling well today. www.englishpage.com

You have made it clear that the loneliness is not a permanent state but a temporary thing, nonetheless feeling lonely isn't instantaneous, so it is quite OK to use present continuous to describe your present emotion. It is also reasonable to use present simple to describe your emotion at this exact moment, even though it is neither an instantaneous emotion nor a permanent state.

The response is therefore perfectly OK, and your alternative is also OK.

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