John and Mary's party is referring to a party organized from both of them. John's and Mary's parties is referring to two different parties: one organized from John, and one from Mary.
Both are correct. Which one you use depends from the context.
"You X" - without commas - evidently does not follow the traditional rules of restrictive/non-restrictive apposition set forth in your question. The construction is used, as far as I can come up with, in three different ways:
- "You X..." = Statement about the group X, of which you are a member.
This is your given example - "You Hebrews have been nothing but trouble." "Hebrews" is the group to which the statement applies - i.e., presumably Rameses is referring to all Hebrews. "You" simply adds that the person or people being directly addressed by the speaker are understood by all to be members of this group. As mentioned by others, referring to an ethnic group in this manner today will typically be taken with offense.
- "You X..." = Statement about a subgroup of X, of which you are a member.
Take, for example, "You geniuses have finally solved the problem that I thought was impossible to solve!" Someone might say this to a person on a team that solved a really hard problem. The person is not referring to all geniuses - he's only referring to the people on the team that solved the problem. Further (unlike usage 1, above) it need not be understood beforehand that the people to whom the statement is addressed actually are geniuses - the speaker may well be using this utterance as a way to state his view that the team members are geniuses (which may be more of a compliment than something intended to be taken as literal truth).
"You guys", "you people", etc., to some extent fall into this category. Obviously the statement is not intended to refer to all "guys" or "people" - it is rather intended to refer to some smaller group, which is implied from context.
- "You X!" (singular)
This identifies the person as an X. "You filthy liar!" is an example. However, unlike the plural versions, the singular version can't be a subject of a sentence. "You saint are always thinking of others" isn't possible. Instead, say: "You saint - you're always thinking of others."
Note that in all of the above examples, articles aren't used. "You the Hebrews are nothing but trouble" would sound completely wrong. However, if commas are involved, the typical rules of non-restrictive apposition appear to apply and you'd expect an article: "You, the Hebrews, have been nothing but trouble." This would be more appropriate if Rameses were addressing a crowd of all of the Hebrews, or possibly a single person, if Rameses viewed that person as a representative of the Hebrews. Like Moses.
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The first one because the name is an optional information so you need to mark it off and your sentence has to make sense without it, too, hence you need the possessive 's with the word daughter.
Although personally I'd use em dashes here to avoid having commas so close to apostrophes.