Learn English – “Congratulations on …” or “congratulations for …”

If you had taken up woodwork as a hobby and made your first object, lets say a wooden jewellery box, and someone asked you:

That looks beautiful. Did you make it?

You would proudly assert:

Yes, I did actually. I made that box with my (very) own hands.

Note, you could (idiomatically) insert very in the phrase without changing the meaning. The fact you place the adjective, own between the possessive adjective, my, and the noun, hands, means you are emphasizing the ownership of the hands that crafted the object. If you had replied:

I made that box with my hands.

Your listener would understand that you were the carpenter or maker of this object but it would sound odd, because you can't make an object with someone else's hands. You would never say: "Yes, I made it with his hands". It sounds not only gruesome (!) but obviously illogical. More typical expressions would be:

• Yes, it's handmade
• Yes, I made it by hand

The above expressions tell your listener that the object is crafted by hand, that very little machinery was involved in the process or if that were not the case, that you handled the machinery or mechanical tools yourself.

A more unusual way to express the same idea would be to say:

• I made it with these very hands

I would place the stress on "very" and probably hold my hands, palm upwards, to show the various cuts, nicks, scars and calluses that might be present as evidence that I am an experienced carpenter.

The Google Ngram seems to be heavily in favour of "by hand" but please do look at the different links below the chart to see how each expression can be used.

EDIT: Very when it is used as an adjective

There is a very famous and beautiful song sung by Nat King Cole entitled

The Very Thought Of You

The first two lines are

The very thought of you and I forget to do
The little ordinary things that everyone ought to do

In these lines, "very" means mere, simple, and plain. Just the simple thought of his loved one is enough to make him forget about the dull and insignificant moments of his daily routine. The meaning is slightly different from that quoted by the OP, "precisely as stated or being exactly the same and not any other"

However, returning to the OP's sentence,

Yeah! Trust me. I saw her with him with my very eyes

in this example very carries another different meaning. The Chambers Dictionary gives the definition for "very" used this way

adj. used for emphasis, [...] precise, actual (this very minute, her very words)

Thus the speaker is emphasizing that he saw the woman with a man, presumably not her real partner, with his actual eyes (in other words he didn't hear the news from anyone else) and therefore, to take his word for it.

To

give a dinner for

implies it is an honorary dinner, even in your first example.

...gave a dinner for the Shah ( in honour of )
...gave a dinner in honour of the Shah ( obvious meaning )
...had dinner with the Shah ( maybe just grabbed a bite to eat )

Doing something in honour of someone, is to do something for someone with a feeling of respect. To do something for someone does not necessarily mean the feeling of respect is involved.

In your example, giving a dinner to someone is to physically hand dinner over to them. Giving a dinner for someone means you are celebrating something and allows you to participate with them.