When my friend,whom I helped with house work while she was out and I love her,she'svery nice and kind ,send me a message saying You way,way,way too good for me I don't deserve you.What she mean by that?is it meant as a compliment or was she annoyed by receiving too much help and attention?
Learn English – My question is about an expression “way too good for me and don’t deserve you “
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“You seem forced” can be used to indicate what you’ve expressed
Your meaning may have been gotten better than you think. “You seem forced” employs a fairly common usage of “forced”, indicating strain even though there is not a physical force. Note that “you look forced” in your question’s title is a little different, having to do with the way that “seem” refers more comprehensively to apparent behavior and “look” refers more to physical appearance.
Another way to say this that would be specific to tone of voice, diction, etc. would be “you sound forced” which could be hedged a little as “you sound a bit forced” and would be helpfully followed by a bit of explanation or a question, such as “is everything OK?”¹ or “do you feel you have to talk to me?”
Expanding on the “look”/“seem” difference in “you don’t look yourself”
With “you don’t look yourself”, it seems like you are saying that something about the other person’s physical appearance is unusual compared with historical data or some assumed expectation (e.g. someone’s face is green or streaked with tears and you assume they are not always that way, even if you don’t know them).
If you were to say “you don’t seem yourself”, your comments would be understood to refer to someone’s overall presentation. This could certainly include physical appearance, but is more often used to refer to someone’s speech, body language, and other aspects of behavior. I believe this phrase would fit the situation you described.
Note for “you don’t seem yourself”: Similar to “you don’t look yourself”, you would be understood to either be making a comparison to ways you’ve seen this person act before or ways you assume they normally act. For example, you think that the person doesn’t normally put so much emphasis on their words or deliver them in a staccato rhythm.
The note from the end of §1 of this answer applies here as well. Since you’re guessing at something about another person, it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to describe a little more what you mean by what you’re saying. I personally think it would be appropriate to ask a question aimed at learning more about how this person is feeling and/or what they think about the situation.
[No 2. are both bad grammar. Do not use either of these.]
Persuasion can only be done before someone has decided.
"Why don't you take that class?" This is often used to encourage someone to do something. It is more polite than telling them to do something. They will respond as if it was a suggestion: "That's a good idea".
Questioning can only be done after someone has decided. So they can respond as if it was a question. To make it clearer that it is a question you can ask "Why don't you want to take that class?" or "Why can't you take that class?"
If it is possible to change their minds then it is both a question and persuasion. If they don't like their decisions being questioned they will respond "Because I don't want to".
If it is too late then it can not possibly be a persuasion. It has to be a question by elimination.
When a question is equivalent to an imperative it is just as rude. Do not ask "Why don't you go to hell?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOflpNvy_30&t=0m23s
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Your friend meant that she was very grateful for your help. "You are too good for me, I do not deserve you" is a compliment in which the speaker is lowering their own self in order to elevate the other person.
Some people mean this phrase more literally than others do, so you have to use what you know about the person to understand exactly what they meant. A person with low self-esteem who thinks very highly of you may actually believe and mean that they are not worthy of your friendship (though they may still accept your friendship). However, many people use this phrase in an off-hand manner. They do not actually have self-esteem issues. They are simply somewhat exaggerating their true feelings. What they are trying to communicate is that they genuinely and deeply appreciate your friendship.
As with most phrases, "You are too good for me" can be used sarcastically to mean the opposite of its usual meaning. However, it is clear from the situation that your friend was not being sarcastic or dismissive toward you.
A natural response to what your friend said might be something like "Not at all. I was glad to help." If you suspected the speaker might have low self-esteem, you could say, "That's not true. You're a very good friend, and I am always happy to help you."