In the International Phonetic Alphabet (IPA), finite is /faɪnaɪt/ and infinite is /ɪnfənɪt/.
In case you are unfamiliar with the IPA, "finite" rhymes with "skylight." Both of the vowel sounds are the "long i," as you put it.
You might hear "infinite" pronounced in two slightly different ways. The first way rhymes closely with "run it" (in-fuh-nit) and the second way rhymes more closely with "win it" (in-fin-it). The stress in either pronunciation will fall on the first syllable.
If you are (or are willing to become) familiar with the IPA and its pronunciations, you can find a helpful tool here that transcribes most English words into their IPA form.
Short answer
To master the /z/ sound, make a long /s/ sound and sing loudly at the same time. It won't sound anything like a J, /dʒ/ at all.
Full answer
The Production of /z/
/z/ is a voiced alveolar fricative. To understand how we make a /z/, we need to think about some different parts of the mouth.
If you look in the mirror you will see a line running down the middle of your tongue (called the mid-saggital line).
If you feel behind your teeth with your tongue, would will feel a little shelf. That's your alveolar ridge. Behind that your mouth suddenly arches upwards to form the roof of your mouth.
To produce a /z/, you have to place the blade of your tongue (that's the bit just behind the very tip) on the alveolar ridge. You create a little furrow or ridge down the mid-saggital line. The rims (sides) of your tongue rest against the inside of your side teeth.
You then force air from your lungs down the narrow channel, this creates friction, or turbulence in the air as the air is forced through this furrow and through the narrow hole created between your tongue and the alveolar ridge. This turbulence causes a hissing noise. While this is happening, your vocal folds (sometimes called your vocal cords) vibrate. This gives the sound pitch which is heard at the same time as the turbulence
It might be helpful at this point to think about how we make the sound /s/.
The production of /s/
To produce a /s/ you have to place the blade of your tongue (that's the bit just behind the very tip) on the alveolar ridge. You create a little furrow or ridge down the mid-saggital line. The rims (sides) of your tongue rest against the inside of your side teeth.
You then force air from your lungs down the narrow channel, this creates friction, or turbulence in the air as the air is forced through this furrow and through the narrow hole created between your tongue and the alveolar ridge. This turbulence causes a hissing noise.
This probably sounds a bit familiar!
How to make a /z/ if you are accidentally making a J sound as in jump, /dʒ/
Now, you will have noticed that to make a /z/ we do exactly the same thing as we do for /s/. There is no difference between the position of your tongue, teeth, or any other part of your mouth at all. The only difference is that when we make a /z/ we have voicing, or vocal fold vibration. This gives the /z/ pitch; we can make a high pitched /z/ or a low pitched /z/. When we make an /s/ we just get a hissing sound. It does not have the same quality of pitch. This is because there is no vibration from the vocal cords.
Because of this, if you can already say /s/ with no problem, you just need to add vocal fold vibration to make a /z/. You need to add pitch. How can you do this? The answer is: you need to sing while you make an /s/. Start making an /s/ and then sing while you are making it. You need to make the /s/ for several seconds. First do it at a high pitch then a low pitch. If you can hear a high or low pitch then you are making a /z/. You can then start practising it at a normal speaking type of pitch.
It is much easier to do this than to try and follow the instructions for making a /z/. If you are making a /dʒ/ sound, the sound in the word jump, then I could give you advice like "move your tongue slightly forward in your mouth towards your front teeth - but don't make a complete closure with your tongue when you start the sound". However, this is very, very difficult to do without anyone to help you. In my experience, singing a note whilst making an /s/ sound is quite easy to do, more effective and more fun.
Hope that's helpful!
References:
You can read about /s/ and /z/ in Gimson's pronunciation of English by Alan Cruttenden, 8th Edition 2014
Best Answer
I think clicking on the website below to listen to the pronunciation, you may tell the difference between them clearer.
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