Learn English – ny word to describe a girl who is “soft and tender”

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I know "tender and soft" is wrong here, because one day, when one of my friends who came from China went to a bar with some American guys, they asked my friend this: "What kind of the girl do you like?" My friend answered: "Kind, tender, and soft." They all laughed and pointed at a very fat girl to him…
Could you please give me some proper word to describe a good girl?

Best Answer

Soft and tender are not bad words to use here. I understand what you mean, and so did they. They were just making fun of you because "soft and tender" can mean "physically soft and tender" and it can mean what you meant, kind and gentle.

If you want to avoid people thinking this, you could use synonyms (kind, nice, quiet, gentle) or you could not use the two words together. "Kind and soft" or "kind and tender". Another alternative is you could use the word tender-hearted. However, it's not as big of an issue as you might think. They were just looking for ways to make you feel bad over silly things.


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Although, be careful, don't say "nice and soft" or "nice and tender" both of these sound far worse than your original phrase.