She refused meeting me, ignored my calls, and did her best so we don't/didn't
cross paths at school.
I'm not sure whether I should use don't or didn't in the sentence above.
Learn English – Should I use “don’t” or “didn’t” in the following sentence
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Best Answer
It really just depends on the relationship between "narrative time" (that you're writing/speaking about), and "utterance time" (when the statement is actually made).
That's to say, if it's relevant now (at time of speaking) that you still don't cross paths, present tense don't is appropriate. But if you're reminiscing (perhaps decades later) about your schooldays, say, then it's all in the past - so you'd use didn't.
Not directly relevant, but idiomatically, "She refused meeting me" is extremely unlikely/ungainly here. It would normally be "She refused to meet me".