It, in fact, precisely reflects its meaning! As you read, 'make it up' with someone means to become friendly with someone AGAIN
Check the previous sentence... they weren't talking earlier.
".....thought [sic] we weren’t on speaking terms for our last two years at school."
They weren't on speaking terms means they did not talk to each other for the said period.
I think it all comes down to what the writer/speaker thinks about the reader/listener
ie. If it is new to the reader use 'a', otherwise use 'the'
as for your examples
So I just cannot see the difference between "this is a book I told you about yesterday" and "a woman who fell 10 meters from High Peak was lifted to safety by a helicopter."
Why can a definite article be used with "woman" for introducing for the first time and not with "book"?
If you told me about the book yesterday, then it wouldnt be new information so it would be: "this is the book i told you about yesterday", Using 'a' in this case almost implies that I forgot about it, and you are reminding me
For the second one, I have never heard of the[1] woman (in the article) before so you describe her as 'a' woman and not 'the' woman.
the[1] last examples:
It should be "the" according to the explanation people have given me, right? Unless there is more than one letter he sent to Burnham on June 20, which is unlikely.
This does read to me as if there is more than one or that he wrote so many letters over the years that they can only specify which one they are talking about by date.
Likewise, it should be "the" unless Burnham wrote several letters that contained a description of the meeting.
it is 'a' because he wrote only one letter. "Burnham wrote one letter to Olmsted...", if you said 'the' in this case, it would imply that I knew about the letter before you said the sentence
[1] I use 'the' because you know what I'm refering to here
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The two phrases imply slightly different things.
If my coworker showed up to the meeting, then he was probably supposed to be there; I had been expecting him. However, if my coworker showed up at the meeting, then it was likely more unexpected. Either he wasn't invited, or maybe he was invited but usually doesn't show up to meetings, so there is an element of surprise there.
However, I will say that these are very fine differences. In general, you can use either "at" or "to" and be fine.
The only time I'd say that you have to use one over the other is if you have a verb. "He showed up to play." You definitely couldn't say "he showed up at play."