The relationships between men and women (boys and girls) can be confusing regardless of how careful you are with language. "I like your hat," could make some people clingy and desperate with a possessive infatuation. Currently, the expression, I have taken a shine to you seems to exist somewhere between, "I'm impressed," and "I think I love you."

take a shine to somebody (Cambridge Idioms Dictionary, 2nd ed. Copyright © Cambridge University Press 2006. Reproduced with permission.)

(informal)

to like someone immediately

I think Andrew has taken a bit of a shine to our new member of staff.

The etymology of shine:

1520s, "brightness," from shine (v.).

Meaning "polish given to a pair of boots" is from 1871.

Derogatory meaning "black person" is from 1908 (perhaps from glossiness of skin or, on another guess, from frequent employment as shoeshines).

Phrase to take a shine to "fancy" is American English slang from 1839, perhaps from shine up to "attempt to please as a suitor."

Shiner is from late 14c. as "something that shines;" sense of "black eye" first recorded 1904.

Particularly in it's early usage the expression implied a romantic interest.

High life in New York, by Jonathan Slick, 1844:

If she wanted to take a shine to a Yankee, why couldn't she a found a feller worth a looking at ? But sometimes it does seem as if these gals couldn't tell bran when the bag's open — the brightest on 'em.

Dictionary of Americanism. - New-York, Bartlett 1848:

SHINE. To take a shine to a person, is to take a fancy to him or her.

SHINE. To cut or make a shine, is to make a great display.

*All the boys and gals were going to camp-meetin'; so, to make a shine with Sally, I took her a new parasol.*

The Knickerbocker, 1864:

'it 's rare to see a feller take a shine to a woman old enough to be his granmarm, but...

There were also times it was used without romantic implications, as in a 1900 edition of The American Magazine:

That's what makes it so ticklish dealin' with Indians; you can't tell what they're thinkin', by their faces, any more 'n you can a clock. But when they take a shine to a feller, they don't ask no questions.

A Dictionary of Slang, Jargon & Cant, 1890:

to take a shine, to be partial to a person or thing, to take a fancy

In 1898, the expression was used with the implications of "first impression", in The Deserter, and Other Stories:

... That's what made me take a shine to you, right off.

and in The Outlook - Volume 60:

Later he explained the matter to the teacher. "I didn't take a shine to you nohow this morning," he said ; " I thought you was one of these here psalm-singing gospel fellows, and I ain't got no use for that kind. But when I seen you setting up there and a-eating pie with a fork, I changed my mind. I knowed right away you was a gambler."

More recently the same range of meanings prevails. A Bride for Noah, 2013:

Uncle Miles, who had remained quiet until now, stepped forward. “It seems some of our Indian friends have taken a shine to the ladies and have taken steps to proclaim their feelings.”

Wild Animals and Wedding Outfits, 2013:

The Captain seems to have taken a shine to Bill's repertoire and keeps exhorting him, 'Mr William, Mr William, give us a song!'

The Oxford Thesaurus of English, 2009, seems to have landed on the romantic implications, including it among various substitutes for fancy:

2 she'd fancied him for ages: be attracted to, find attractive, be captivated by, be infatuated with, be taken with, desire; lust after, burn for; informal have taken a shine to, have a crush on, have the hots for, be wild/mad/crazy about ...

Realizing the historically strong implications of the phrase, the strong potential of misunderstanding between men and women, and your desire to prevent a possessive infatuation, it seems wise to avoid this expression.

.^_^. I don't know where you are from but I'm a fluent English speaker, a native American-English speaker. I'd love to help. The answers you received are wrong because they do not address the fact that the male trying to pick up the girl was rude to her.

To "Snub" someone is to disregard, "turn your nose up at", them as if you are too good for them based on a superficial indication of status.

Ex: Celebrity VS Fan, Popular Girl VS LonerNerd, Rich Guy VS Poor girl, etc. So to say that she "snubbed him" would be a negative on her character. He was rude so he would have deserved the rejection, that means no snubbing on the girl's part. Especially when dealing with strangers. If we are dealing with people who are familiar with each other then snubbing would indicate a private quarrel that caused the two not to be speaking in public, when rightfully they should. Like a talented well known actress/musician getting snubbed at award shows due to internal conflicts behind the scenes.

To "blow him off" or "tune him out" both amount to ignoring his advance on her but neither are critical. You said you want something that indicates "to send someone as far as he can get to :)"

A pure slang for that kind of rejection is "to curve"

Example #1 Guy: Hey toots! What will it take for ya to dance with big daddy?! Lady: A Cold day in hell. walks away Friends: Ohhhh! She curved the heck out of him!

In order for her response to be considered a curve it's not about the insult itself but the delivery. A SWIFT, Direct, and FINAL response. Her tone of voice and facial expression is what cements the injury to his ego. Walking away leaves no chance for him to follow up, but even if she didn't walk away and just looked him in the eye, or looked past him pretending not to see him, it would be an ego bruising curve. He will look and feel like a fool, or at the very least know that he better find a new target. We also call this "shutting it down". The word "it" in this case alludes to the entire situation, but to be more direct you can use him/her instead.

Ex: Mike was trying to pick her up at the party yesterday but she just shut him down.

Ex: Mike was trying to pick her up at the party yesterday but she just curved him.

**Note: What makes the guy rude and worthy to be curved in this situation is him calling her "toots". It's demeaning. Coupled with him calling himself big daddy showing his inflated ego and undermining her presence.

Curving someone or shutting them down can also be more subtle or even comical. It simply means not to entertain their antics AT ALL. Among young people/teens even if you are interested in a person a lady will have to curve the guy she likes from time to time to stop situations from getting out of hand ;)

You can read a few examples from Urban Dictionary.

I'll post this example of curving through texts.

To ignore, avoid or sidestep someone's obvious expression of interest through flirting or any means of advance.

Person 1: "Hey baby I miss you"

Person 2: "Goodnight bruh"

hashtag: just got curved

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What would make that a curve is the fact Person 1 and Person 2 are not in a relationship so Person 1 is sweet talking by calling Person 2 baby. If person 2 is female her saying "bruh" is a comedic indicative that her response is deliberate and calling for him to "chill out" meaning stop. She's avoiding sweet talk because it usually leads to other things/feelings. If he does "chill" they will just move on to a different topic. So she would have curved his attempt to get mushy. If he continued by saying "No really I can't get your pretty face out of my mind" to cement her curve she will likely not respond after saying "Goodnight bruh" and they'll address it in person later. But his attempt to get mushy would have still been shut down be her direct and abrupt response that did not reciprocate his feelings.

SORRY TO BE LONG WINDED buuuut, I do not know your language background or English level so I'm hoping to be thorough enough for ANYONE to understand if this topic is completely new to them :-D

So Lastly, the other perspective. If you take the texting scenario and make it between persons where ONLY ONE (1) was interested, then Person 2's curve would have been a total shut down.

Besides Urban Dictionary my source is MYSELF, a young lady in America that frequently shuts down fools that don't know the right way to approach women <3 .^_^.

PS- Spurn and Rebuff aren't quite informal. The average group of youth don't get together and talk about how "Tiffany rebuffed David in front of everyone" or how "Amy had to spurn the old guy trying to holler at her at the grocery store."

Cock-block is a #DEAD WRONG term in this situation. Cock-blocking requires a 3rd party. Cock-blocking is stopping two people who want each other from sexual activity.

EX: Every time Monica and Eric are alone in the basement Amy starts watching Disney Movies as an excuse to go down there and dig through boxes.

EX #2: When Damien sleeps over Bianca's her brother pretends to be afraid of the dark so he can stay in her room. That way no one gets frisky.

You can't cock-block yourself and a woman isn't cock-blocking when she rejects weird guys. Cock-blocking is a vulgar term that will raise eyebrows if you say it to an adult or generally decent person.

By the name it does not simply mean "alone time" it's explicit to sex. Keeping that in mind it can be offensive to the female if you tell her "Amy is always cock-blocking don't bring her next time" because she may have wanted to be alone with you without having ANY intentions of having sex with you. Saying cock-block to a girlfriend or potential girlfriend could make her misunderstand your intentions. So save that term for hanging with the guys, lol.

I hope I helped! Next time you head out be prepared to shut down and curve folks that don't come correct! ;-)

P.P.S - The Cold shoulder is also inaccurate because it simply means to ignore by quite literally turning your shoulder or back to the person trying to speak to you. A cold shoulder doesn't always "send someone as far as they can get to" and is usually personal. Some women DO give the cold shoulder to complete strangers, but it is rare, which is why such women are dubbed "Ice Queens"

P.P.P.s - Have no worries, saying that you curved a guy/girl doesn't have any stigmas attached to it. People won't question if you were raised in a bad area or anything like that, they always won't think you are being uppity, it is a perfectly accurate term across social and financial groups.

Oh and to explain why the terms "shutting it down" and "curved" are used

The term shutting it down: When a man is trying to pick you/a female up disrespectfully it is seen that he is "wound up" or "turned up" so we "SHUT IT/HIM DOWN" before he can take things any further. You bring his ego, attitude, erection, etc. down to Earth.

The term curve: It's seen that a person is throwing a flirt/advance like a baseball straight for you but you're decline is the CURVE-ball they didn't see coming. You took them off their beeline course. :)