I asked my friend if she was ready to get married. She replied,
I am still getting used to the idea of having to get married.
What does this mean? What does 'having to get married here' mean? Does it mean she is getting used to the idea of getting married? Or does it mean she is getting used to the idea that she has to get married? Is there a difference between the two sentences?
Best Answer
Depending on the culture she is from, there may be things that she wants to do, that she cannot, without getting married. Examples are:
Perhaps when she was younger she innocently thought all these things were possible to her without having to marry. Now she is older she realizes that she "has" to marry to achieve them.
Not necessarily. The phrase used suggests that she is getting used to having to marry to do certain things.
Yes there is. One is considering the requirement to marry in order to do things. The other is considering an imminent marriage.
The lady in question might never marry, conceivably. She might tell her friends "I never realized I had to marry to do X. I didn't want to marry, so therefore I can't do X.".
Of course, this is all dependent on where you live. In some cultures you can do many things without being married.