Learn English – What were you doing/have you been doing [does one have a negative connotation?]

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I have been debating with my wife (she is American) over the correct use of each phrase. She doesn't know anything about grammar and also grew up with a lot of immigrants so she suggested I just post and ask.

When and how should I use each phrase apart form the grammatical guidelines of a specific/unspecific time?

For example could one be more polite/rude or do they suggest something else, e.g. the person was waiting all day or just for a few minutes?

Could I say 'What were you doing last week' because I'm interested in what they were doing or should I say what have you been doing last week to sound more polite which in turn would contradict the rule of not using a specific time with 'have been' since 'last week' is a specific time, or should I ask 'What did you do last week?'

Best Answer

I agree with those in the comments, that using "What [were you]/[have you been] doing?" is much more likely to be interpreted by the recipient as rude, or at least intrusive. I can't think of a situation in which I would use either of these phrases unless I was essentially accusing someone of doing something they shouldn't have been.

If I'm interested in what someone has been doing, instead of saying "What were you doing last week?", I might say "What did you get up to last week?", although if the last time I spoke to them was much more than a week ago and there's no specific reason why last week was important, then I'd probably just say "What have you been up to?".

Disclaimer: I'm a native UK English speaker, so some of the above might be a little regional to the UK. I have spent a fair bit of time in the US and understand a decent amount of their regional variations, but I'll let a native US English speaker fill in the gaps if necessary.