Learn English – When to use “be married” or “have been married” or “get married” or “have got married”

According to dictionary,

to be married=to have a husband or a wife

to get married=to have a wedding

Situation 1: you currently have a husband/wife,

You can say "I am married" = I have a husband/wife. (expressing a fact)

You can say "I have been married for 10 years"= I have had a husband/wife for 10 years. (an action happened in the past and have been progressing to the present time.)

You can not say "I was married" because it is against the fact (you currently have a husband)

You can not say "I am getting married" because you do not have a wedding at this moment, it happened in the past

But you may say "I got married" because you possibly did have a wedding in the past

Situation 2: you currently have no husband/wife, you divorced,

You can say "I was married" = I had a husband/wife. (expressing a fact in the past but not at the present time)

You can say "I had been married for 10 years before we divorced"= I had had a husband/wife for 10 years before we divorced. (an action happened in the past and had been progressing to a point of time also in the past.)

You can not say "I am married" because it is against the fact (you divorced)

You can not say "I am getting married" because you do not have a wedding at this moment, it happened in the past

But you may say "I got married" because you possibly did have a wedding in the past before you divorced

Situation 3: you are going to have a wedding next month.

You can say "I am getting married next month"

You can say "I got married last year" but we don't know you may have divorced or you are still in a happy marriage.

You can't say "I have got married for 10 years" because it sounds like you have weddings every year.

Can we say "I am married" (have a husband /wife) in this situation when the wedding has not happened yet???