Learn English – Beg to differ – Why is there a need to beg for differ

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Wouldn't 'Wish to differ' be better than 'Beg to differ'? A friend of mine asked me why I like to 'beg to differ', instead of 'wish to differ' or 'want to differ'.

Any insight on the history of 'Beg to differ'? I know that 'Beg to differ' looks more polite but another friend told me that it is over-polite, so would 'Wish to differ' be a better choice?

Best Answer

One of the uses of beg is to provide ‘a courteous or apologetic mode of asking what is expected, or even of taking as a matter of course’(OED). It is found in beg leave (seek permission) and beg pardon (ask for forgiveness). Beg to differ is frequently heard in discussions in which the parties hold opposing views. Whether you choose to use it or not depends on circumstances. I personally don’t like it. It sounds stilted to my ears. One alternative is I’m afraid I don’t agree with that (where I’m afraid, is, like beg, used to limit the potential for confrontation).