Learn English – I was wondering if there are synonyms for “I was wondering”

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Often I ask a question (by e-mail), and precede the question with I was wondering if…

For example I was wondering if you can give me your office hrs?

Why not just simply ask the real question? E.g. "Can you give me your office hours; what are your office hours?"

My purpose for saying I was wondering before the actual question was to avoid the alternative of asking the question blatantly, which may appear inconsiderate to other parties.

The general purpose is to ask a question in such a way that the recipient feels comfortable and respected in order to get the best possible response.

What are some alternative synonyms to: "I was wondering"?

Might someone know of a different, effective approach to asking questions?

Best Answer

I was wondering ... is an example of what could be termed deferential backshift. Using a past tense makes the request remoter. As Yule, in Explaining English Grammar, states:

Remote potential in social terms creates an impression of less imposition and hence greater politeness.

Note that in such circumstances it would be more usual to use the past tense in the if-clause too:

I was wondering if you could give me your office hrs?

Some of the many alternatives are:

Would it be possible to give me ... ?

Do you think you might give me ... ?

I would be most grateful if you could give me ... .

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