Learn English – Is “I can’t get to know[..]” incorrect

grammaticality

A past question I wrote was corrected, from:

But I can't get to know how to precisely perform them

to:

But I don't know how to consistently perform them

( https://gaming.stackexchange.com/posts/16202/revisions )

To me it felt like my version implied that I tried many times but ultimately failed. The second version doesn't have this implication.

So, was my first formulation really incorrect? If so, how can I formulate this in order to emphasize the fact I tried many times and still failed to understand ?

Best Answer

The problem with your original version is that the phrase to get to know is an idiom that refers to coming to know someone personally. It would be normal English to say:

I got to know John after hanging out with him at a party.

I can't really get to know Mary because she lives so far away.

It sounds very odd to use the phrase to get to know to describe coming to know intellectual knowledge or learning how to perform a particular technique. To express failure to acquire impersonal knowledge after multiple tries, you could say:

I still can't figure out...

I can't wrap my head around...

I still don't get it.

Or any number of other formulations.

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