In a word, context.
The simplest way would be to initially assume it's not a phrasal verb, then ask yourself, "Does the sentence make sense?"
- Consider: He ran up a big bill - this wouldn't make much sense, not unless there was some huge bill stretched across a hilly landscape, big enough to take literal strides on.
Another trick might be to replace the main part of the verb with a synonym, and see if there is any change or loss of meaning. (If there is a shift in meaning, there's a good chance you're dealing with a phrasal verb.)
- He sprinted up a big hill. (Essentially, means the same as, "He ran up a big hill.")
- He sprinted up a big bill. (Does not mean the same as, "He ran up a big bill.")
As your examples show, however, unless you're already familiar with the phrasal verb, there's no way to automatically detect it just from glancing at the sentence.
But one day a lonely pilgrim, whose heart burned with the pure flame of faith, so deeply grieved at seeing the desecration and decay of this place.
OP asks pertinently: What is the nuanced difference between “at seeing” and “when seeing”?
There might indeed be a fine difference of nuance between 'at seeing' and 'when seeing', but it would be illogical to explain it on the basis of the specific example given in this question, where 'when seeing' cannot replace 'at seeing' without sounding awkward, because in this particular sentence, as rightly pointed out by User26328 in the earlier, excellent answer (and I quote the relevant part here)
"(...) 'at' is not linked to 'seeing'; rather, it's linked to the prepositional valency of grieved: to be grieved at something."
Therefore, in order to address the question of the 'nuanced difference' between 'at seeing' and 'when seeing', we need to find or construct a good example sentence, which is one where we could grammatically replace 'at seeing' with 'when seeing' and the fine meaning changes as a consequence.
1.Such examples are uncommon because 'at seeing' and 'when seeing' are not usually used interchangeably. When I did a Google search with "when seeing" I found it used predominantly at the beginning of a sentence, most often in headings of news / lifestyle articles, and (quite unlike 'at seeing') very rarely used in the middle of a sentence.
Google search results for "when seeing"
Google search results for "at seeing"
2.Many common sentences present too simple an example, such as 'don't run when seeing a dog' / 'don't run at seeing a dog.' The obvious difference in meaning here would be, 'don't run when you see a dog' vs 'don't run at the sight of the dog': however there is no nuance in the difference.
So I have constructed the following pair of examples (which are closely related to the sense and gravity of the original sentence) in order to answer OP's question about 'nuanced difference':
We feel sad when seeing the decline of a great sportsperson.
We feel sad at seeing the decline of a great sportsperson.
[Pl. note that these would be more commonly written as 'we feel sad when we see the decline of a great sportsperson' and 'we feel sad at the decline of a great sportsperson' respectively.]
The straightforward semantic difference, as already pointed out by members in the earliest comments, would be that 'when seeing' means at the moment of / time of/ on the occasion of seeing while 'at seeing' means because of / effect on the viewer of seeing, but this does introduce nuance worthy of discussion.
What is the nuanced difference here? This is my own interpretation:
If we feel sad 'when seeing' (at the time of seeing) the decline of a great sportsperson, as for instance when a great player misses an easy penalty kick, it could be argued that maybe that feeling is specific to the moment / occasion of seeing, and does not persist after the event?
They felt a strong but fleeting sense of sadness when seeing the decline of the great footballer: missing that penalty kick was an awful reminder that he had lost his cutting edge, and was on the long, slow road to sporting oblivion.
Whereas 'at seeing' implies that the feeling is caused by what is seen (here, the decline of the great sportsperson):
He felt sad at seeing the decline of the great footballer: he was reminded of it often in the next few months -- years later he would come upon some reference and relive that sadness, thinking of how that missed penalty had heralded a giant's long, slow descent into sporting oblivion.
We feel that emotion because of it, not just 'when we see it' -- meaning that we could feel the same even on other occasions when we think of it -- that's the nuanced difference!
Best Answer
The verb is follow through. It doesn't need with.