What does it mean when too much formality can appear menacing?
Consider the responses when one asks for a lemon:
"Do you have any lemons in your fridge?"
- "No, sorry"
- "Nah"
- "No, I don't think so."
- "Nope."
- "Why? Do you need one?"
These responses seem normal or even friendly for some reason. Yet, if I ask,
"Do you have any lemons in your fridge?"
and the response is
- "No."
- "No, I don't."
- "Why?"
These sentences seem different in tone. Something about their length makes them seem much more hostile. Is there a name for what I'm talking about?
Best Answer
The "extended" responses are hedges - a mitigating device used to lessen the impact of an utterance.
Hedges are so common in the context of a (disappointingly) negative reply that failure to use one isn't just "neutral" - it can actually seem hostile.