Learn English – What does it mean when too much formality can appear menacing

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What does it mean when too much formality can appear menacing?

Consider the responses when one asks for a lemon:

"Do you have any lemons in your fridge?"

  • "No, sorry"
  • "Nah"
  • "No, I don't think so."
  • "Nope."
  • "Why? Do you need one?"

These responses seem normal or even friendly for some reason. Yet, if I ask,

"Do you have any lemons in your fridge?"

and the response is

  • "No."
  • "No, I don't."
  • "Why?"

These sentences seem different in tone. Something about their length makes them seem much more hostile. Is there a name for what I'm talking about?

Best Answer

The "extended" responses are hedges - a mitigating device used to lessen the impact of an utterance.

Hedges are so common in the context of a (disappointingly) negative reply that failure to use one isn't just "neutral" - it can actually seem hostile.