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And where does this expression come from?
I have tried looking it up and looking up nuclear separately but haven't found anything useful.
Edit: I've encountered this expression in the following sentence: "That nuclear orange jacket—believe me—fails to complement your lime green pants."
In this context, the word above means better than. If someone is above doing something, they feel as though the activity in question is not up to their standards. It is also said that the activity a person is above is beneath them.
This is supported by the fourteenth definition of above, which states:
14) of too fine a character for: He is above such trickery.
In your question, the person negated the phrase. By saying she is not above breaking a rule occasionally, she means that she does not consider herself too good or proper to break a grammatical rule when it enhances her clarity.
The earliest explanation of this saying that I've been able to turn up in a Google Books search is from Marillyn Taylor Klam, My Mama Always Said...: A Book of Southernisms (1993):
Many of Mama's country expressions featured some reference to butter. For instance, she always said: There's more ways to kill a cat than choking it to death in butter.
For a wealthy family, the expression was that they were rolling in butter. If a girl married a rich young man, it was said that she fell into a tub of butter.
This "rolling in butter" metaphor seems like a plausible source to me, since I've heard the expression "rolling in dough" used to describe possessing great wealth.
The earliest use of the phrase that I've found in a Google Books book is in Alan J. Lerner, My Fair Lady (1956, pages 45–46):
George: Come on Doolittle. Out you go. Hop it now. I ain't runnin' no charity bazaar.
Doolittle: (coming from the pub): Thanks for your hospitality, George. Send...
George: Yes, I know. Send the bill to Buckingham Palace. (He goes back into the pub.)
Mrs. Hopkins: You can buy your own drinks now, Alfie Doolittle. Fallen into a tub of butter, you have.
Doolittle: What tub of butter?
Mrs. Hopkins: Your daughter, Eliza. Oh, you're a lucky man, Alfie Doolittle.
This exchange occurs after Alfie's daughter, according to Mrs. Hopkins, has "moved in with a swell"—namely, Henry Higgins. It leads into the song "With a Little Bit of Luck." No such expression occurs in G.B. Shaw's original Pygmalion (1916).
There are also two occurrences of the same idea of "tub of butter" as "lap of luxury" in Paul Hyde Bonner, The Art of Llewellyn Jones (1959, both snippets):
"She was Betty O'Connell, the daughter of Timothy O'Connell—they went to school together," Mrs. Kelleher explained. "Then her father died and she inherited millions and Middleham."
"Pete Boswell certainly fell into a tub of butter," the Admiral remarked.
and:
"I can believe that. He left us a nice tub of butter to roll in. Sometimes—but not often, not really seriously—I wish he hadn't left us a dime."
UPDATE (4/2/2016): Early use of 'falling into a tub of butter' as an idiomatic phrase
A search of the Library of Congress's Chronicling America newspaper database turns up three instances of "falling into a tub of butter"—all by the same reporter writing for the same newspaper, all within 15 months of each other, and all in the context of baseball. From Wagner, "Home Runs Defeat Dan O'Neil's Club" in the Bridgeport [Connecticut] Evening Farmer (June 19, 1911):
The word had been passed around that southpaws bother Bridgeport. Stone did bother Lou Litschi and Benny Kauff, neither of whom got a hit, but Skipper Eley and Foot Ruell found the southpaw as soft as falling into a tub of butter. Eley had a home run, a single and two passes in four times up. Ruell connected for a home run, a single and a pass.
From Wagner, "Senators in Bad Wreck at Steeplechase," in the Bridgeport [Connecticut] Evening Farmer (August 14, 1911):
That certainly was a collection of base hits that the Mechanics delivered at Steeplechase. They only beat Hartford by 26 to 5. The pitching [by Hartford] was so soft that it was like falling into a tub of butter for the Mechanics to gather the swats.
And from Wagner, "Umpire Red Held May Go to American Association; Other Notes of Interest Regarding Those In Sporting Spotlight," in the Bridgeport [Connecticut] Evening Farmer (September 24, 1912):
It will be as soft as falling into a tub of butter for some of the Red Sox players this season. Take utility man Krug for instance. He has played in only six games but will get a full share and this will probably amount to about $5,000.
Clearly Mr. Wagner views "soft as falling into a tub of butter" as a swell go-to simile; but whether he made up the expression himself or just repeated a saying then current in Bridgeport, Connecticut, is impossible to say on the basis of the skimpy evidence here. The fact that the phrase doesn't show up elsewhere in the same figurative sense, however, makes its status as a forebear of the modern phrase rather shaky, particularly since "soft" isn't the same as "lucky."
On the other hand, further searching in Google Books yields an even older instance in which falling into butter is a figurative treat. From Edward Eldridge, A California Girl (1902):
Some of the elderly ladies in Orangeville who had lived in the east many years before coming to California, brought to Orangeville some of their old sayings, and one of these sayings began to float through the atmosphere of Orangeville and was whispered from one to another; namely, that Julia Hammond had fallen into a tub of butter. Now, on first hearing such a statement one would think a sad calamity had happened to the young lady, especially when taking into consideration that in a few weeks' time she expected to change her name. But upon making an examination of her wearing apparel, one saw no sign of such an accident, and when she appeared at the table in her elegant morning wrapper you could not see any grease spots on her well-fitting garment, and when you began to wonder what they could mean by saying that Julia Hammond had fallen into a tub of butter, you resolve you will make a further and closer scrutiny of that young lady's person. And last it begins to dawn upon your mind, for you notice that when she puts her elbow on the table and her hand up to the side of her face, your eyes are almost dazzled by seeing something on her finger which are brilliant stones set in gold.
And from Guido Janes, "Marrying for Money," in Domestic Engineering (January 13, 1917):
"Well, you married for money after all," drolled out Ruff Cox.
"Yes I did. It was practically like falling into a tub of butter or getting an absolutely sure tip on the races. But at first my wife did not like to have her pies turned into engines of war. But the big check smoothed over her hurt feelings."
The 1902 and 1917 instances related to matrimony are directly on point and suggest that the phrase that the OP asks about has been in use in the figurative sense of "lucky" for more than a century.
Best Answer
Nuclear orange (or atomic orange or radioactive orange) refers to very bright and very intense oranges favored by attention-seeking purchasers of athletic shoes, Corvettes, cosmetics, and other products.
As others have noted, there is an association of glowing with radioactivity, but as a child of the 1980s, long after advent of the Atomic Age, I would have referred to such an orange as fluorescent orange or perhaps DayGlo orange. The resurgence of radiological adjectives since then I would attribute to publicity about the dangers of Fiesta dinnerware, a highly popular line of ceramic dishware produced by the Homer Laughlin China Co. from the 1930s to 1972. Its vivid oranges (sold as "Fiesta red") were made possible by glazes containing uranium oxide or depleted uranium.
As noted in a Baltimore Sun article from April 23, 1994:
(Besides uranium, glazes may have also used radioactive thorium or potassium, and radioactive materials were also used in the manufacture of Cloisonné jewelry and canary glass).
The products containing the radioactive dyes were discontinued in 1972, due to changing tastes (according to the manufacturer), but the general public's skittishness about (and general ignorance of) nuclear radiation will help to ensure that calling a color nuclear or atomic or radioactive will add to its appeal, not to mention make ordinary plates and cups into collector's items. The most dangerous metal in the glaze, after all, is the lead.