I was wondering if there is a word that describes either the act of a woman going away to learn etiquette from someone outside her immediate family, or describes a woman who is going away to learn etiquette from someone outside her immediate family?
Old fashioned words are fine, it would be especially good if the word is tied to feudal culture.
Update: I have been asked to provide context.
This is part of a conversation between a witch and a faerie queen. The faerie has stolen the witch's granddaughter and naturally enough the witch wants her back. Their conversation is a combination of courtroom argument and a magic battle over the granddaughter.
The witch has said being a blood relationship gives her custody of the child, the faerie is making a counter argument that children leave their families all the time:
“You are old and all your sons and daughter have grown. A boy must learn a trade. A girl must ___ and find a husband. The Child may be of your blood, but blood is not so fair.
Since it has come up in the comments, I'd also like to add that in this setting finishing schools do not exist. Instead one to one mentorship with an older woman is used, I know that happened in the real world. Elizabeth Báthory is rather infamous for killing the girls sent to her to learn etiquette. I'm just hoping there's a specific word for it.
Best Answer
Debutante: a woman makes her first public appearance. (See Oxford Dictionary of English.)
So, in the context you have provided the word could be debut:
Some references from Google Books: