Learn English – word for colloquial forms of address

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For example, "dude," "man," "buddy," "pal," etc, when used to stand in for someone's name. "Hey, pal, how's it going?"

Is there a word for terms like these? Or is "colloquialism" as close as we can get?

Best Answer

Informal forms of address: colloquial vocatives, faux intimates, hailnames

What you’re talking about are informal forms of address, colloquial vocatives, faux intimates, or my favorite from William Safire, hailnames. They’re forms of direct address (hence vocatives) used in casual situations as a substitute for you or for the formal sir or ma’am (depending on gender).

The reason Safire calls them hailnames is because they’re most famously used when you’re hailing someone to get their attention, as in Hey X, could you. . . ?” Or “Listen X, . . .” Some of them have other, non-vocative uses, and a few can be prefaced with my.

There are oodles of these, but most of them occur only between men, often young men, in casual situations. Many are strictly regional. Some say something about the age, sex, race, education, or social class of the speaker or the person addressed. Others carry a tone of irony, aggression, or condescension. They impose a faux intimacy if used on someone you don’t know, something many take offence at.

Here’a a small sampling of these hailnames, almost all of which risk being hot buttons of hate for the uninitiated:

  • dude, fella, guy, kid, kiddo, man, pal, bub, bud
  • Ace, Jack, Joe, Dutch, Mac, Max, Skippy, Slick, Spanky, Sparky
  • boss, buddy, champ, chief, sport, shorty, big guy, tiger, killjoy
  • friend, brother, daddy, gramps, stranger, buster, boy, cousin, cuz
  • chum, guv, mate, matey, squire, sailor, sunshine, cobber
  • amigo, pardner, hoss, hermano, mec, paisan, senator
  • stud, hon, love, dove, girl, miss, missy, sister, granny, babe, cutie, good lookin’, sugar, honey, sweetheart, hot stuff, jugs
  • bra, bruh, bro, homie, nigga
  • jerk, prick, asshole, cunt, smeghead, dickbreath, fuckhead, dumbfuck, mother fucker

Only native speakers should ever consider using any of these!

Whenever you address someone by something other than their name or the pronoun you, you risk offending them. Name-calling is risky business indeed.

It is impossible for the non-native to judge the appropriate connotation of these for any given situation. Even for native speakers they risk coming off as artificial or insincere; for non-native speakers, they are a mine field of assured self-destruction that may well get you sneered at or even punched in the face.

Since so many of them are regional or from one particular subculture, whenever someone with an accent other than the region they come from uses one of these, it sounds fake. Fake is bad.

You have been warned. Just don’t do it.

See Also

  1. “On Language; My name ain’t mac, buddy” by William Safire in The New York Times
  2. “PRO-VOCATIVE The dude map: How Americans refer to their bros” by Nikhil Sonnad at Quartz.
  3. “The Heart of Dudeness” by Frank Jacobs at bigthink.com.
  4. Ask Language Log: Why don’t Americans say “mate”? by Mark Liberman.
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