My father was married to Alice. They divorced and then my father married my mother. A few years later they later had me.
I've read this: What are the limits of the prefix 'step' to describe relationships? but was wondering if any more light could be shone on it.
Does that make Alice my ex-step-mother? Seems strange as Alice was never a "mother" in my life. Does step- work backwards?
Is there a word or term for Alice's brother in relation to me. Something like ex-step-uncle? eg. Could my ex-step-uncle borrow your wheel barrow?
Best Answer
Alice is your father's first wife. She has no relation to you at all.
Step-parents walk into your life by marrying a parent. Alice was not in your life at all: you have a mother and a father. That is, step- does not work backwards.
Alice's brother has no relation to you either, for the same reason. If it simplifies things, then he might be an ex-uncle, but that's still a bit of a misnomer because you were never his nephew: you are his sister's ex-husband's son.
It's possible that there are subsets of English which do have a term which covers your situation — indeed, young children in the UK may have "aunts" or "uncles" who are trusted adults but actually no relation at all, but that tends to wear off once they (the children!) start school.