Example:
I send my boss or co-worked the following message without please:
I need my [some specific company] software updated.
In an effort to be polite, I'll add please:
I need my [some specific company] software updated, please.
To me, this can come off as actually being less polite and or impatient.
Does anyone agree?
Take 3:
I need my [some specific company] software updated, please. Thanks!
I add the thanks on at the end (early) as a way to 'soften' it.
Is that better?
Best Answer
[Boss's name], I'm unable to complete [relevant business task] as I am currently on [the particular version] of [the software].
If you could please direct me as to how I could get version [X] installed I would very much appreciate the help.
-[you]
When dealing w/superiors it is best to lead with the business reason behind your ask. You're not asking because you want your boss to do menial labor, you are asking because you are part of their business unit and you don't want to miss deadlines.
The "please" in the above is for your boss to teach you how to get software upgraded. There is an implication that you'll be taking this over from now on b/c you will know how. Bosses tend to like this.
Source: am boss.