You have to own more than half the points for bleeding to occur. There are usually (always?) an odd number of points, so 2/3 or 3/5 is required for bleeding of tickets.
At max "bleed" -- when the enemy owns all capture points -- based on my testing, you lose about 1 ticket every 3 or 4 seconds. It definitely hurts and frequently causes us to lose matches where the ticket count is close. It's also why I get frustrated with teams where they're more interested in fighting than making sure we don't lose all the damn capture points, but I digress..
I can't say exactly how many tickets you bleed when the enemy owns more than half but not quite all the capture points. It's less rapid, but I'll have to do a bit more testing.
Best Bets
According to the official Prima game guide (Engaging Vehicles, p. 16), your best option is the M320 grenade launcher, which you'll unlock very early. And that's not at all an ideal option since you won't be doing nearly as much damage as a rocket, mine, or tank would do. My feeling is that it's like throwing rocks at a rhino. Sure, eventually you'll do damage, but long before you do enough damage it'll figure out where you are. Bad scene. And as for helicopters, good luck getting them to stay still long enough for a grenade launcher takedown.
Note that if a chopper or heavily armored vehicle is very badly damaged (spewing smoke), it might be worth a grenade launcher or even a grenade attack in the hope of shaving off those last few hit points. But don't expect miracles.
Small Arms Fire
Small arms fire won't damage heavily armored vehicles. You can damage some light vehicles with small arms fire, but don't count on fast results.
As a better strategy you can damage people in the least-armored vehicles, buggies and jeeps. If you pull it off, as a bonus you get an intact vehicle to jack.
M320 Example
As an example of probably the best case scenario, grenade launcher vs. lightly armored vehicle: Earlier tonight I disabled a couple of APCs with four grenade launcher rounds each.
Though I can't complain about the result, in one case the APC had no gunner and the driver didn't jump out, drive away, or hop in the gunner's seat. In the other case the gunner... uh... had suboptimal situational awareness. And that's just disabling, not outright destroying; an engineer could have repaired them.
Against slightly more skilled opponents, or on a fully populated server, I doubt I would have have survived either attempt. To pump out four grenades takes a good 10-15 seconds including reload time.
What you can do
So as a rule, leave it to engineers with their rockets and mines, support with their C4, and people in vehicles.
Perhaps the most useful thing you can do as light infantry is to spot enemy vehicles. Just because you're not blowing it up yourself doesn't mean you're "completely useless". Spotting is actually very valuable, and it's disappointing how infrequently most players do that.
Best Answer
You can only give an "Attack the flag" command from outside of the capture zone. You would have to leave the capture zone to give a attack command.
The reason for this is, whether you are giving an "Attack the flag" command or you are inside the flag your teammates are already notified that you are capturing the flag and need support. Once you enter the zone you teammates can see on the HUB and are told that you are capturing, thus it would be repetitive to also command them to attack