How to see the item-specific progress on the Daedric Walker achievement

There are a few possibilities here, according to the uesp entry on the quest

The trigger may take some time as you'll have to wait for the woman to be murdered. Personally I came across the scene in the day time while passing through the area, I did not wait in the graveyard (that may cause the murder to not trigger).

You can also try to trigger the quest by purchasing the house from Jorleif during the stormcloak rebellion quest line.

However, it is known (see the glitches section in the entry) that the quest is bugged and may not start at all, not even via the console. In this case then you are out of luck.

You may have had a hireling steal or loot the item. This doesn't count toward your own items stolen, but the item will still be marked as stolen.

You may have looted an item which was already stolen when you found it. (I'm not certain how this can happen.)

You may have pickpocketed the item. This counts toward your "Items Pickpocketed" counter but not "Items Stolen".

Note: Picking up a stolen item in your own home won't increment your stolen items counter. I've tested this, but you may want to save first anyway. If the red in your inventory bothers you, bonemeal and ingots lose their Stolen status when crafted using Alchemy and Smithing respectively.