I had a Ralink based Wireless card too and in particular with Windows 7 I had plenty of problems. High ping, disconnections, and so on.
My first suggestion is to try to connect directly to the modem with an Ethernet patch, only to verify that using this connection the ping problem is solved.
If it helps I can say that in my case I solved the problem without doing holes around, but I simply bought a couple of Netgear Powerline/Ethernet Adapters that worked perfectly.
Certain classes are better against certain other classes.
In general:
Heavy is weak against Spy, Sniper, and Demoman.
Heavy is strong against Scout, Pyro, and Medic.
Heavy is even (more or less) against Soldier.
An Engineer versus Heavy depends entirely on if the Engy has a level 2-3 sentry or not. A mini-sentry or level 1 sentry will almost always see the Heavy win at full health. In this case, the Engineer should flee. If he was building mini-sentries, building them as you flee is an excellent idea, as it will slow the Heavy down to kill it, or make him ignore it to chase you, dealing him damage all the while.
Medic is weak against Scout, Pyro, and Soldier... well, most of the classes in the game, but those three in particular.
Medic is strong against the Spy, simply because a Medic that continually moves will generally outrun or dodge a Spy's backstab.
The thing is... a Scout has the best chance of killing a Medic if he can manage to get behind the Medic, simply because a medic is a 2-shot kill with the standard Scattergun at close range.
Now, the best defense against a Heavy/Medic pair is to work with your own teammates. If you can take out one of the two, the other teammates may be able to take out the other.
If you really do need to combat them alone, Sniper is likely your best bet. As tempting as it is to go after the Medic first, if he keeps moving, he can generally outrun your scope. However, a fully charged headshot will one-shot the Heavy.
If they Uber, run, unless you're an Engineer trying to keep a sentry nest up. In this case, repair repair repair, and hope that they aren't smart enough to have the Medic block the sentry's knockback effect. If you can get a Pyro to help you by airblasting the Medic or Heavy away, even better.
P.S. NEVER go head-to-head versus a Heavy, he will always likely win simply because of how much damage he does.
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There's a solid chance either 1) A game file is corrupted; or 2) One of your mods is interfering with listen servers.
You'll probably want to add the less intrusive mods back in first, such as model or material replacements, as those are less likely to mess with the overall game.