Attack bonus
- +2 BAB (from 3 levels of monk)
- +3 Dex
- -2 Two-weapon fighting with a light weapon in your off-hand (unarmed strike)
+3/+3
Attack bonus with a Flurry of Blows
- +0 BAB (from 3 levels of monk, Flurry of Blows column. You don't add it, you use it instead of your usual BAB whenever you use the Flurry.)
- +3 Dex
- -2 Two-weapon fighting with a light weapon in your off-hand (unarmed strike)
+1/+1/+1
Damage bonus
Depends on your Str bonus. Let's assume +2
- For two handed weapons it's 1.5 times your bonus, rounded down.
- For unarmed attacks it's your bonus, because monks don't halve it.
So:
Attack 1 (spiked chain, main hand, finessable, reach)
- 1d20+1 to hit
- 2d4+3 damage
Attack 2 (unarmed, finessable)
- 1d20+1 to hit
- 1d6+2 damage
Attack 2 (unarmed, finessable)
- 1d20+1 to hit
- 1d6+2 damage
Horrible, I know. But that's what you get when trying to use early on features and feats that decrease your chances to hit in order to get you more attacks.
A note on weapon proficiency
In 3.5e if you're proficient with a weapon you get no bonuses. If you're not proficient, you take a -4 to hit instead. Luckily, monks are proficient in every monk weapon, and your DM included the spiked chain in this number.
Yes
Holding two weapons does not in any way use your bonus action.
And you can make an unarmed strike in place of a melee weapon attack even with a weapon in each hand.
Instead of using a weapon to make a melee weapon attack, you can use an unarmed strike: a punch, kick, head-butt, or similar forceful blow (none of which count as weapons).
So if you use your attack action to make a melee weapon attack with your sickle, you can then use a bonus action to make an unarmed strike and, say, kick your opponent.
Note that you must of course meet the martial arts requirements for you to get the benefit of martial arts, but if you do then the rules allow this.
Flurry of Blows is also allowed by the same logic.
Best Answer
The rules are worded weirdly, and I will disagree with KRyan, and the FAQ, on their reading. Woe is me...
TL;DR: If the Monk chooses to use Two-Weapon Fighting, she may use her full Strength modifier with her off-hand unarmed strike.
First, we need to consider the regular rules. For Damage (PHB, p. 135):
For Two-Weapon Fighting (PHB, p. 160):
From this, we conclude that:
As noted by KRyan's answer to the question you linked, there is the issue that technically one needs to wield a weapon in one's off hand to gain one extra attack, and one wishing to make an Unarmed Strike typically doesn't -- though the Monk could.
From the highlighted excerpt about an Unarmed Strike always being considered Light, which only makes sense if making an Unarmed Strike with the off-hand is possible in the first place, I interpret the rules as allowing using Two-Weapon Fighting without wielding a weapon in one's off-hand.
Then we need to consider the Monk's Unarmed Strike (PHB, p. 41):
Invoking the principle that context is everything, I will consider the two last sentences together.
In isolation, the first sentence does not make much sense. "striking unarmed" or "strike unarmed" appears nowhere else in the PHB. The proper game term would be "making an Unarmed Strike", which is used consistently.
By reading the first sentence in light of the second sentence, however, it all makes sense:
And in this light, the formulation of the first sentence makes sense:
Hence, as a result:
I must warn, though, that the result is less than stellar:
Furthermore, Flurry of Blows also grants the full Strength modifier for the "bonus" attacks even when attacking with Special Monk Weapons.
There is the Two-Weapon Feat fighting line, which for the cost of 3 feats would allow a Monk 15 (or higher) to make 3 more attacks, however it uses iterative attack penalties for the extra attacks, on top of the -2 penalty, so even then seems less attractive than only 2 extra attacks at full BAB. Especially on a BAB-starved class.