RAW - No, Otto's Irresistible Dance is not a Charm spell
It does not say that the target will be "charmed", and the condition it imposes is significantly different than the description of the "Charmed" condition.
OID:
A dancing creature must use all its movement to dance without leaving its space and has disadvantage on Dexterity saving throws and attack rolls. While the target is affected by this spell, other creatures have advantage on attack rolls against it.
Charmed:
A charmed creature can't attack the charmer or target the charmer with harmful abilities or magical effects. The charmer has advantage on any ability check to interact socially with the creature.
A dancing creature can attack the caster (with disadvantage -- and that disadvantage applies to any attack, not just against the caster) and can cast AoE spells that include the caster and anyone else they choose in the target area with no penalty. They just can't move freely. A charmed character can move freely but can't attack or target the caster.
Furthermore, if it were a Charm spell, it would not be necessary to specify that "[c]reatures that can't be charmed are immune to this spell." That appears to be listed as a special exception.
RAI - No, Otto's Irresistible Dance does not impose the Charmed condition
Jeremy Crawford has tweeted saying:
Being charmed means being subjected to the charmed condition
Since OID does not impose the Charmed condition, the Fey Ancestry resistance to "being charmed" does not apply.
What makes sense?
Webster's dictionary says:
charm: to affect by or as if by magic : compel
Magically forcing someone to dance seems to fall completely within that definition.
I would give those with Fey Ancestry advantage on saves against all enchantment spells that compel the user to do something that is not their own free choice. This includes many spells that do not specifically say they are "charms" or that they impose the "Charmed" condition, such as command, compelled duel, and yes, Otto's irresistible dance. I believe those all fall within the common sense and dictionary definitions of "charmed" in this context, and there's nothing in the description of Fey Ancestry that says it only applies to things that grant the "Charmed" condition.
I'll deal with the simplest question first - Horrifying Visage is listed under the Ghost's Actions section, so it requires an action to use. While under the effects of Time Stop, this is impossible for them.
As for the question of multiple Ghosts using Horrifying Visage, the answer is contained in the rules quote you included:
If a target's saving throw is successful or the effect ends for it, the target is immune to this ghost's Horrifying Visage for the next 24 hours.
Immunity is only to a specific Ghost's Horrifying Visage, not to any Ghost's Horrifying Visage.
Best Answer
A half-elf needs to roll a saving throw to avoid being paralyzed
Elves and half-elves in 5e share a common trait:
But this says nothing about paralysis, so in this case we are looking at a specific rule about elves and undead in the MM, and half-elves aren't included.