I am Co-GM'ing in a group of 7 players – 6 male, 1 female.
One of the male players is constantly making sexist remarks, such as "I'm gonna f_ck some b_tches when we get back to town" or "Shut up or I'll rape you", which makes most if not all of the others feel pretty uncomfortable.
Further, he shows little general respect for other players and their characters. He refuses to give them potions when they need some, he refuses to let others use their skills (e.g. he bashes a door in instead of letting someone else pick the lock), etc.
What we tried so far
We tried talking to him in-character, but he cared very little about the opinions of the other characters, both PC's and NPC's.
We tried talking to him out-of-character and explained that what he is saying is rude and makes the whole group feel uncomfortable, especially our only female player. He reasoned that this is the way he concepted the whole character, as being intentionaly "rude" and "barbarian".
Since none of these things helped in any way, we are currently seeing only two options:
- Kill off his character
- Remove him from the group altogether
We hope that killing his character (possibly assassinate him by the group members), would be a clear signal that such language and behaviour is not accepted by the group. If all else fails, we also consider removing him from the group, but it would really be the last straw.
Do you have any recommendations for how to deal with such a player?
During the session today he made multiple bad impressions yet again, so we decided to make it final and remove him from the group. He threw a tantrum, called us various things and stated we didn't know how to roleplay anyways, then ran off. All in all, the group seems to be much happier now, so I am glad things worked out the way it did. Many thanks to everyone involved in this discussion.