There's no such thing as senseless violence, according to the one who commits it. Characters who kill or torture without at least an internal justification are crazy, not evil. You don't have a reason to kill people in the party or at random, so you don't. This doesn't make you nonevil.
Also remember that just because you're Evil doesn't mean you're a villain. Many Evil characters have no ambitions higher than their own survival and/or comfort; they don't aspire to great power, nor to purge the world of the target of their hate. They're just trying to get by, not so different from the rest of us.
The traditional list of Seven Deadly Sins was originally compiled not so much as a list of inherent sins, but a list of reasons that people sin. This makes it a great source of motives for Evil characters. I prefer to expand the list to nine, adding Fear as Wrath's twin in the fight-or-flight reflex, and Despair because it was actually in the original list; Sloth replaced it later.
Avarice: The key to happiness is having things. I will have it all.
Envy: I deserve it, not them. I will have it from them.
Gluttony: Pity those not at the top of the food chain. I will never be in that position.
Lust: I want to do it all, and I will let nothing get in my way.
Pride: I must be better then them: so much so that my superiority is never even questioned.
Sloth: I just don't want to do it. Let them do it for me. If they refuse, make them do it for me.
Wrath: They will never hurt me again. I will punish them for what they did, and leave them unable to do it to anyone else.
Fear: They must not be allowed to hurt me. (Note the lack of an again here: this is one of the big differentiators between Fear and Wrath, but it can make a huge difference in the character).
Despair: I just want the pain to end. Giving it to others helps.
Also keep in mind that these are core motivations. Any one of them will need to be elaborated upon. What is it? Who are they? How does the character plan to achieve this goal? Also worth noting is the lengths that your character goes to to hide her motives. Evil characters often prey upon one another's weaknesses, and while Wrath-type characters might not worry about seeming weak due to their motives, Sloth-type and Fear-type characters likely would. These folks are likely to construct a facade, often but not always based on Wrath, as a matter of posturing.
Your character sounds like a Wrath-type, with a focus on the undead. Because her main focus is on something that is not so amenable to the survival of humanity in general, she can get along decently well in society, and even be a very useful sort of person to have around. Some might even mistake her for heroic. But she has a twisted fight-or-flight reflex: any slight or injury, real or imagined, runs the risk of touching on that trauma, for reasons that make sense only to your character (if they even make sense to her). She might lash out disproportionately at small threats, or even against things she mistakenly believes to be threats, but are not.
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Well, this kind of psychological change is inevitably going to show up in the character's behaviour to some extent, unless he's a really gifted actor. So I think you need to tell the GM, so that he can play NPCs' reactions to this. If you can't trust the GM not to tip your hand, then you are trying something too subtle and/or complicated for the group, and need a different group.
It seems legitimate to let the other players realise what's going on from your character's behaviour, but be warned that they may realise this much earlier or later than you intend. This is a fact of life in role-playing: it's a shared creation, and you can't decide what other players will do or think.
It's very possible that if the players realise what's going on before your character has become utterly bloodthirsty, they will try to save you from this fate. They are entitled to try to do that. They have, after all, taken you on as a companion whom they trust in dangerous situations. You wouldn't complain about them saving your character's life down a dungeon; they can reasonably try to save him from the effects of PTSD.
Besides, an arc where you suffer and are redeemed seems more interesting than one where you become a dedicated killer and are likely executed for it in the end.