Learn English – a better word for ‘condescending’ (whose meaning has changed)

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In the course of my work I have to report on the way I have conducted myself with regard to people who may be of limited capacity or who have learning disabilities. I am required to indicate in my reports how I have treated people in difficult circumstances and, on occasion, in situations of conflict.

In doing so, I need to express the old meaning (the original Middle English meaning) of 'condescend' which now has the meaning (Google Dictionary) 'having or showing an attitude of patronizing superiority'.

The old meaning [Oxford Dictionary of English 2nd Ed] is 'to defer' or, literally, 'to give way'.

The word is used in the 1611 King James bible : 'condescend to those of low estate' where the 17th century translators have used it to express a Greek verb συναπαγομια, sunapagomai , literally 'to be led by', (sun and pagomai) which appears to bear the same meaning as that conveyed by the Middle English definition of 'condescend'.

What word other than 'condescend' – whose meaning appears to have modified – can I use to convey the attitude of deliberately restricting one own's speech, mannerism and deportment in order to accommodate the capacities of someone who is naturally more limited in their mental and psychological ability ?

Best Answer

If you use any language which places you on a higher level than the others, you will likely cause offence to either them or their family.

I'd stick with the totally neutral "adapted", which just suggests that they communicate differently to you (which is true). Something like "I have adapted my communication to the different needs and communication styles of my clients" or something along those lines.

As a side note, the word "clients" here places them on an equal (or possibly higher) level than yourself, and is formally appropriate, if you are being paid to deal with them.