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Is there a name for someone who offers help or resources, then complains about it, usually to a third party, but sometimes also to the person who was given the help.

Example: Mary offers to buy Judith a picture frame, for Judith's Children. Mary is then overheard sometime later complaining that it cost $xx to Barbara – Yet she made the offer.

Mary is such a _____.

Best Answer

The term martyr complex may apply

When someone is asked to do something on behalf of a friend, and they agree, but then act like they've made huge sacrifices and should be repaid 100 times more.

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A bit more can be found at Wikipedia

In psychology a person who has a martyr complex, sometimes associated with the term victim complex, desires the feeling of being a martyr for his/her own sake, seeking out suffering or persecution because it either feeds a psychological need, or a desire to avoid responsibility.

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