[RPG] What to do if the DM ignores all but one player character’s backstory

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My current DM in their homebrew campaign has centered the campaign almost entirely around the barbarian in the party. The campaign has been going for about 6 months of play roughly once a week (about 6 weeks of in-fiction time at a guess). I joined later than the rest of the group though and I created my character and backstory then with the DM's help.

For clarity, the party's adventures are related to getting the barbarian's "dragon powers" back by proving him worthy of having them. His backstory is pretty much that he was true polymorhped into a human by a powerful wizard to teach him a lesson.

The reason this is annoying (or however you would prefer to interpret it), is that the DM actually specifically requested backstories from everyone but hasn't seemed to actually take any note of any other character's backstory. It seems so far that I could have pretty much written anything I wanted in the backstory and it wouldn't have mattered because they would ignore it anyway. (I did write a backstory that I felt was quite good.)

I'm not sure how to handle this type of "problem" and the fact that another player has felt the same way kind of worries me for where the game will go if this continues.

Best Answer

Talk to your DM

This is really the only viable solution other than leaving the table (which I'll get to next.) I wouldn't 'gang up' on the DM about this, but broach the subject with regard to wanting to better understand how they (the DM) is generating story and how much impact the PCs have on the world and how much impact the world has on the PCs.

Session Zero

I'd definitely suggest you approach the DM and ask for a Session Zero to discuss the expectations from the DM and the players about how the game and story would run. This is a great way to introduce the issue(s) you and the other player are experiencing.

You can set this up with the DM by just stating that you'd like a better understanding of the world and their game and that there are some questions about it. You can also say that given the game has been going on for about 8 months, it's a good time to make sure everyone's expectations are being met. This includes the players expectations of the DM/game and the DM's expectations of the players.

Sample Questions

  • Are our backstories for use in our own personal roleplay or will there be personal character progression alongside the main story?
  • Will our actions affect the greater world?
  • If pursuit of personal stories is part of this, what happens in the greater world around us if we spend time not following the main story?
  • We understand that there is limited time for each character AND the main storyline - Is there a method you have or are trying to do to balance this?

But what if there is no progress?

Then you need to ask whether or not you are still having fun at this table. It is still possible to enjoy the table and the game even without your backstory or character growth. But if that isn't the fun you're having, then your only option may be to walk away - and that's okay! Everyone should be having fun at the table. It may not be the fun you expected, but as long as you're still having fun, then let it continue (You just may need to shift your expectations in order to do so.)